SOCIAL NETWORKING, A WEAPON FOR NARCISSISTIC PERVERTS

Today, I wanted to talk about a subject that is still too little known but nevertheless destructive, that of the narcissistic pervert.

Your best friend, your colleague or your neighbour, they can be anyone, they can look completely normal and be with us every day without realizing what kind of monster they really are.

These men represent only 3% of the population, but each of these people destroy dozens of lives.

Stories of women (and men) living for years under the influence of a man (or a woman) who finally dare to talk about it, there are thousands of them.

It is important to know that social networks are their favourite playgrounds and without which they could not have such a hold on you.

That is why I am writing an article today that will allow you, thanks to a few tricks, to spot a narcissistic pervert on the networks.

ð THE COMMONALITIES

The preferred way for a narcissistic pervert to approach you on the networks and make sure you're going to enjoy it, is to play with what you enjoy in life. Nowadays it is very easy to know what a person likes, what activities they do, the music they like, etc. Whether it's an Instagram post where you're wearing your favorite group t-shirt, a retweet from your friend who says she loved the yoga session with you, or all the kitty postings and recipes you keep liking on Facebook. It is then very simple for anyone to realize what kind of life you lead. And this is the weapon that 90% of narcissistic perverts use to create a perfect encounter. They will approach a young woman in a simple way and act as if they knew nothing about their lives and little by little show that he likes the same music, that he practices this kind of sport and so on. This person thinks he or she has found the soul mate, complicity is established you have finally found someone who has the same values, the same aspirations, the same tastes, (the or) the long awaited companion. While he's created a character out of thin air and he's none of the above, but one thing's for sure, he's got you trapped in his net without you even suspecting anything. He has stalked you, approached you, created an identity for himself and can start to manipulate you.

ð THE GHOSTING

Ghosting is an indispensable phase for any narcissistic pervert, without which he could not have such a hold on you.

Setting the Context :

A person is going to approach you on the networks, get to know you, be attentive, make you appreciate him/her and overnight pretend not to be interested in you anymore, ignore your messages, send you nothing, . . . While it continues to track you, to follow your life on the networks (your stories, tweet, post, . . . ) knowing that you're just waiting for that, to keep a presence in your head and make you think only about him, that you feel he's thinking about you. This technique perverts your attachment to the person and makes them indispensable to you. You can't detach yourself from the person because you have him or her on your mind all the time. She “locks” you in and you become totally dependent on her, without you realizing it.

In order to better be able to put oneself in the head of a person who undergoes this technique of ghosting I suggest you read this article, where a young person testifies to us the toxic way in which the narcissistic pervert destroys his life while passing by the ghosting.

- https://www.manrepeller.com/2018/04/orbiting-is-the-new-ghosting.html

ð JEALOUSY

The main characteristic of the pervert is his jealousy, “jealousy is normal and classic in a couple”, you will tell me, but when it becomes sickly and unmanageable, it is time to ask real questions. The narcissistic pervert wants to feel like you depend on him. He will then begin by reproaching you for a whole bunch of little trivial things like your attendance, your response time, justifying that he is afraid that you will talk with other people, that it is a jealousy linked to the fact that he likes you a lot. All this to please you, but while making you feel more and more guilty. Then will come the jealousy attacks in front of your outings, your outfits, your comments, your likes, . . . To follow the little reflections that it will always justify “healthy” to reassure you, when it is just the opposite. You should start worrying when he manages to make you move away from your friends, when he has fits of excessive jealousy without reason, when his mood is changing.Take it out of your minds that these crises are exceptional and that they will stop, they will get worse and only intensify. Think of yourself and talk about it around you, don't be alone in suffering.

I let you read this testimony of a woman who lived 5 years under the influence of a narcissistic v-pervert and who finally dared to speak:

http://www.slate.fr/story/166433/temoignage-violences-conjugales-recit-calvaire-couple-pervers-narcissique$

Blackmail, lies, jealousy, guilt, denigration, addiction, a whole bunch of terms that correspond to its men and women who can destroy your lives. But it is not so easy to recognize that we ourselves are going through such a nightmare. That's why I'm making you aware today of the narcissistic pervert. At the slightest suspicion, at the slightest strange fact that your spouse might do to you, start talking to someone, a friend, your family, someone you can trust and who could give you an outside opinion on the situation. Above all, don't deny it because this kind of relationship can really break you for many years. If need be, do not hesitate to go to the website specially designed for cases of narcissistic perverts (pervers-narcisique. com), to read each of the articles on this subject and even to consult the psychologist specializing in cases of narcissistic perverts who can really help you.

I hope I've been able to shed some light on this, take care.

Bye

Cloé Gonet